If you have just been through a break up this will have been the main thing going through your mind lately, hell it's probably been the ONLY thing on your mind! This is a rough period of your life.
You will need a plan to follow to help get you through this and into a new and better episode of your life.
First of all, you can use this time for a little introspection, a chance to look at yourself and evaluate where you are with your life and where you hope to get to from here.
Now would be a good time to analyze your past relationship and look at it with cold detachment.
Was it really that good, was he that good a man, was it fun, exciting, interesting, was he your true soul mate? If you can say yes to all these questions, and you wish to try to get your ex back, you are going to need a well thought out plan.
These first tiny steps will form just a small basic part of that plan.
Don't stalk and pester your ex forever calling him or constantly sending messages this will only drive him further from you.
Get all of his stuff out of your life, send his gear back to him, any clothes cd's or dvd's get a mutual friend to take them back to him and do it quick, in fact the quicker the better.
We want him to get a feeling of rejection.
If he has some left some small items without any real value like a toothbrush or a t-shirt, throw them in the garbage, and tell him in a short text message that is what you have done.
No need to be nasty in the message just make it a polite note that you thought he probably would not want them anymore so you saved him the trouble and junked the lot.
That should get the feelings of rejection well and truly roused.
The next thing you need to do is do is sort out any financial concerns between you, if you owe him money pay it back now as soon as you can, if you are short of money borrow it from family or friends, and just get yourself all square with him.
Again that feeling of rejection! Get the idea, he has dumped you but it is him getting all the psychological impact of feeling dumped himself.
Next cease all communication with him for about a month, keep the same circle of friends, that's fine, but don't initiate any conversation with him, just be cold and aloof, if he approaches you and talks, be polite kind and business like.
As I said earlier these steps will form just the smallest part of an overall plan to get your boyfriend back.
You will need a plan to follow to help get you through this and into a new and better episode of your life.
First of all, you can use this time for a little introspection, a chance to look at yourself and evaluate where you are with your life and where you hope to get to from here.
Now would be a good time to analyze your past relationship and look at it with cold detachment.
Was it really that good, was he that good a man, was it fun, exciting, interesting, was he your true soul mate? If you can say yes to all these questions, and you wish to try to get your ex back, you are going to need a well thought out plan.
These first tiny steps will form just a small basic part of that plan.
Don't stalk and pester your ex forever calling him or constantly sending messages this will only drive him further from you.
Get all of his stuff out of your life, send his gear back to him, any clothes cd's or dvd's get a mutual friend to take them back to him and do it quick, in fact the quicker the better.
We want him to get a feeling of rejection.
If he has some left some small items without any real value like a toothbrush or a t-shirt, throw them in the garbage, and tell him in a short text message that is what you have done.
No need to be nasty in the message just make it a polite note that you thought he probably would not want them anymore so you saved him the trouble and junked the lot.
That should get the feelings of rejection well and truly roused.
The next thing you need to do is do is sort out any financial concerns between you, if you owe him money pay it back now as soon as you can, if you are short of money borrow it from family or friends, and just get yourself all square with him.
Again that feeling of rejection! Get the idea, he has dumped you but it is him getting all the psychological impact of feeling dumped himself.
Next cease all communication with him for about a month, keep the same circle of friends, that's fine, but don't initiate any conversation with him, just be cold and aloof, if he approaches you and talks, be polite kind and business like.
As I said earlier these steps will form just the smallest part of an overall plan to get your boyfriend back.