There is no such thing as the perfect relationship, that seemingly only exist in fairy tales.
There will be rough patches with lots of ups and downs, as well as emotions and feelings you will go through in your relationship.
These are simply challenges that if met with the correct attitude, can strengthen your relationship and bond with each other.
Let's discuss how to keep those challenging times to a minimum in your relationship Remain Calm - Often times conversations that bring about emotions that bring on an intensity that may cause you to attempt to gain the attention of the other person by raising your voice.
Please attempt to refrain from this, as it is not an effective communication technique.
It is difficult to communicate between two people when one has such an increased inflection in their tone that may signal to someone else aggression, negativity or rejection.
Be Understanding - When discussing important issues, especially ones that arise from discussions that lead to arguments, it is important to let your partner know that you understand them and their view point.
You do not have to agree, you just have to understand your partner's perspective.
Be genuine, responsive, and listen to gain maximum understanding in discussions with your partner.
Discuss the Problem - Be sure you and your partner are discussing the real issues.
Get to the root of the problem and be as open and honest as possible.
If you do not want to constantly have the same arguments over and over again, you will find it necessary to define the real issues.
This will alleviate the resurfacing of the same issues throughout the relationship.
Are you familiar with the saying, "Being married means having the same argument over and over and over again"? Respect Opinions - It is true that everyone has an opinion.
Allow your partner to express theirs openly to you.
Remember you do not have to agree with the opinions of others, but give these opinions your respect and undivided attention.
It will reflect your caring and commitment and allow you to solidify your bond through this sharing of your minds.
Resolution - Find a stopping point to the issue.
Sometimes that may not mean resolution right away; it may simply mean to end the talk of the discussion until a later agreed upon date and time.
But when given another opportunity to close the argument do so as soon as possible, do not prolong the discussion.
The sooner issues are resolved the sooner you can go back to relationship building in a positive way.