While nobody can guarantee their marriage will work, there is one thing a Christian woman can do to help save her marriage and prevent divorce.
For instance, when couples can't agree on how to balance money and marriage, when adultery hits, or when lying defines your marriage relationship, normally selfishness plays a major part in each of these marriage problems.
Although your husband plays a major part in helping the marriage to work, if you make the decision to overcome your own selfishness you can avoid divorce and save your marriage.
Why? Because as a Christian woman, you possess the power to change the climate of your marriage and ultimately pave the way in helping your husband to see the value of staying married.
I know this is true because I suffered from selfishness for many years.
As an only child, I never needed to share with siblings and normally my parents gave me the things I wanted.
Since I never had to share as a child, it shocked me to find out that marriage required so much sacrifice and humility.
Even worse, God required me to do this do this even when my husband didn't (or couldn't) meet my needs! When you look at the Bible, it gives clear instructions for both the husband and the wife.
1 Peter 3 talks about the wife's responsibilities in the marriage whether her husband reciprocates or not.
That means that seeking to meet your husband's needs are not really choices, but God's command.
I'm not saying to let your husband mistreat you, abuse you, use you as a doormat, or disrespect you.
If you feel that he is doing these things, it's important to discuss your concerns with him.
However, depending on the situation, your kind actions can speak louder than any words you could say at this time.
Eventually you'll want to talk with your husband and discuss your concerns and his wrong actions; but when you express your love through your kind actions, it can pave the way for you to talk with him.
And it will prepare his heart to listen to you.
One of the reasons why we struggle to be a blessing to our husbands is because of our perspective.
Sometimes we focus so much on what our husbands don't do that we fail to see the things they actually do.
One thing I suggest is begin to compliment your husband on the good things he's doing.
Also, consider this: as you seek to please your husband, then you're doing your part to make the marriage work and that's all God requires of you.
Nothing more and nothing less.
In addition I, recommend you do things that will please your husband.
Some avoid divorce tips include: • Cooking dinner • Cleaning the house • Going out of the house to work • Becoming a stay-at-home mom/wife • Picking up his clothes from the cleaners • Giving good, passionate sex • Asking to pray for him For your personal growth and development, I recommend you: • Pray • Find some Bible verses about marriage problems • Read marriage books • Be quiet sometimes and observe your husband so you'll know how to communicate effectively with him If you can do the above things on a consistent basis, with a good attitude, this can demonstrate your unconditional love and respect for your husband.
It also shows appreciation for what he's doing in your life.
While these things may challenge you at times, put forth the effort to please your husband.
When you do it unconditionally and with the right attitude, this demonstrates selflessness.
And these small acts of selflessness can improve your marriage and ultimately help you to avoid divorce.
For instance, when couples can't agree on how to balance money and marriage, when adultery hits, or when lying defines your marriage relationship, normally selfishness plays a major part in each of these marriage problems.
Although your husband plays a major part in helping the marriage to work, if you make the decision to overcome your own selfishness you can avoid divorce and save your marriage.
Why? Because as a Christian woman, you possess the power to change the climate of your marriage and ultimately pave the way in helping your husband to see the value of staying married.
I know this is true because I suffered from selfishness for many years.
As an only child, I never needed to share with siblings and normally my parents gave me the things I wanted.
Since I never had to share as a child, it shocked me to find out that marriage required so much sacrifice and humility.
Even worse, God required me to do this do this even when my husband didn't (or couldn't) meet my needs! When you look at the Bible, it gives clear instructions for both the husband and the wife.
1 Peter 3 talks about the wife's responsibilities in the marriage whether her husband reciprocates or not.
That means that seeking to meet your husband's needs are not really choices, but God's command.
I'm not saying to let your husband mistreat you, abuse you, use you as a doormat, or disrespect you.
If you feel that he is doing these things, it's important to discuss your concerns with him.
However, depending on the situation, your kind actions can speak louder than any words you could say at this time.
Eventually you'll want to talk with your husband and discuss your concerns and his wrong actions; but when you express your love through your kind actions, it can pave the way for you to talk with him.
And it will prepare his heart to listen to you.
One of the reasons why we struggle to be a blessing to our husbands is because of our perspective.
Sometimes we focus so much on what our husbands don't do that we fail to see the things they actually do.
One thing I suggest is begin to compliment your husband on the good things he's doing.
Also, consider this: as you seek to please your husband, then you're doing your part to make the marriage work and that's all God requires of you.
Nothing more and nothing less.
In addition I, recommend you do things that will please your husband.
Some avoid divorce tips include: • Cooking dinner • Cleaning the house • Going out of the house to work • Becoming a stay-at-home mom/wife • Picking up his clothes from the cleaners • Giving good, passionate sex • Asking to pray for him For your personal growth and development, I recommend you: • Pray • Find some Bible verses about marriage problems • Read marriage books • Be quiet sometimes and observe your husband so you'll know how to communicate effectively with him If you can do the above things on a consistent basis, with a good attitude, this can demonstrate your unconditional love and respect for your husband.
It also shows appreciation for what he's doing in your life.
While these things may challenge you at times, put forth the effort to please your husband.
When you do it unconditionally and with the right attitude, this demonstrates selflessness.
And these small acts of selflessness can improve your marriage and ultimately help you to avoid divorce.