Marriage Help - Three Habits to Avoid If Your Want a Happy Marriage
Anyone who has paid any amount of attention to their marriage relationship has seen that certain actions will build up your relationship and certain ones will tear it down.
Hopefully your goal is to build your marriage up into a strong and mutually beneficial relationship.
In the many habits that we live by, let me show you some that will damage your marriage so you can avoid the pain that they bring.
Blame Language- When you're in the heat of the moment of a disagreement, you will tend to want to view your spouse as an adversary.
Once you have that view, you want to blame everything on them and your words become cutting.
An issue is hard to overcome when you are focusing all the attention on your spouse instead of the problem.
You can keep your efforts on the problem by speaking in terms of "I" instead of "You.
" Share with your spouse how you feel and think when a certain situation arises.
That situation may be caused by them, but focus on the situation instead of them.
Then work on ways to remedy the situation together.
Criticism- Criticism is a marriage killer.
Our marriage relationship is supposed to be a safe place where we can be real and be strengthened.
If our spouse is constantly correcting us and critical of what we do, why would we want to hang around them? Often criticism is thought of as a way to help our spouse to improve, but it usually becomes a one-sided, pointing out of faults that is very negative.
Be careful of criticism.
Lovingly help your spouse overcome their shortcomings.
Non-Participation- Being a non-participator may seem non-threatening, but it damages marriages just the same.
Marriage is a joint effort where two people come together to face life's challenges and enjoy its joys.
If one spouse is disengaged from the other, then only one is bearing the load of the burdens and it becomes a lonely endeavor.
The one who isolates themselves from the other really is communicating that they do not care enough about their spouse to invest in them.
When that happens long enough, the offended spouse really lives alone.
Hopefully your goal is to build your marriage up into a strong and mutually beneficial relationship.
In the many habits that we live by, let me show you some that will damage your marriage so you can avoid the pain that they bring.
Blame Language- When you're in the heat of the moment of a disagreement, you will tend to want to view your spouse as an adversary.
Once you have that view, you want to blame everything on them and your words become cutting.
An issue is hard to overcome when you are focusing all the attention on your spouse instead of the problem.
You can keep your efforts on the problem by speaking in terms of "I" instead of "You.
" Share with your spouse how you feel and think when a certain situation arises.
That situation may be caused by them, but focus on the situation instead of them.
Then work on ways to remedy the situation together.
Criticism- Criticism is a marriage killer.
Our marriage relationship is supposed to be a safe place where we can be real and be strengthened.
If our spouse is constantly correcting us and critical of what we do, why would we want to hang around them? Often criticism is thought of as a way to help our spouse to improve, but it usually becomes a one-sided, pointing out of faults that is very negative.
Be careful of criticism.
Lovingly help your spouse overcome their shortcomings.
Non-Participation- Being a non-participator may seem non-threatening, but it damages marriages just the same.
Marriage is a joint effort where two people come together to face life's challenges and enjoy its joys.
If one spouse is disengaged from the other, then only one is bearing the load of the burdens and it becomes a lonely endeavor.
The one who isolates themselves from the other really is communicating that they do not care enough about their spouse to invest in them.
When that happens long enough, the offended spouse really lives alone.