Divorce is hard enough to go through, but if there are kids involved it can make it that much more intense and hard.
Adults process and handle things differently than a child does.
Therefore, it is difficult to decide how and when exactly to tell children about their parents getting divorced.
There are many ways the parents can prep the children instead of just blurting it out or letting them find out by themselves.
The parents can have one-on-one outings with the children.
They can work together and prepare exactly what they want to say to the children.
The parents can go to the elders of their church or incorporate family counseling.
Whatever means the parents chose to use to break the news to their children, the parents need to first, and for most let the children know the divorce was not their fault and they will still be loved just as much as they ever were.
Taking the children on one-on-one outings allows the parents to have the children's full attention.
This is also a good way of showing the children that you care enough to spend quality time with him or her.
The goal is to reassure the child/children that no matter what the outcome of the divorce, they are still the most important to the parents.
The optimal outcome is that the parents are able to work together and prepare ahead of time how and what they want to tell the children about the divorce.
This allows the children to see that even though their mommy and daddy are not going to be together as a couple, they are still going to be together as parents.
In cases where the parents feel they are not able to work together in giving the news to the children, it may be possible to confide in the elders of their church for guidance.
Here the parent's can get help in telling the children as well as getting help with interacting with each other.
Just because the couple will no longer be a couple, they should still be willing and able to interact for the children's sake as well as their own.
Finally, seeking family counseling is a good way to not only help the children with the news of the divorce, but also reestablish ground rules of two individual family units instead of one united front.
Therefore, the child/children are still able to feel a sense of stability, which is a key element in the growth process especially in an upset such as divorce.
Adults process and handle things differently than a child does.
Therefore, it is difficult to decide how and when exactly to tell children about their parents getting divorced.
There are many ways the parents can prep the children instead of just blurting it out or letting them find out by themselves.
The parents can have one-on-one outings with the children.
They can work together and prepare exactly what they want to say to the children.
The parents can go to the elders of their church or incorporate family counseling.
Whatever means the parents chose to use to break the news to their children, the parents need to first, and for most let the children know the divorce was not their fault and they will still be loved just as much as they ever were.
Taking the children on one-on-one outings allows the parents to have the children's full attention.
This is also a good way of showing the children that you care enough to spend quality time with him or her.
The goal is to reassure the child/children that no matter what the outcome of the divorce, they are still the most important to the parents.
The optimal outcome is that the parents are able to work together and prepare ahead of time how and what they want to tell the children about the divorce.
This allows the children to see that even though their mommy and daddy are not going to be together as a couple, they are still going to be together as parents.
In cases where the parents feel they are not able to work together in giving the news to the children, it may be possible to confide in the elders of their church for guidance.
Here the parent's can get help in telling the children as well as getting help with interacting with each other.
Just because the couple will no longer be a couple, they should still be willing and able to interact for the children's sake as well as their own.
Finally, seeking family counseling is a good way to not only help the children with the news of the divorce, but also reestablish ground rules of two individual family units instead of one united front.
Therefore, the child/children are still able to feel a sense of stability, which is a key element in the growth process especially in an upset such as divorce.