Thus many individuals are seeking somebody to "complete them," not realizing the bottom line is being an entire person and having a healthy relationship with yourself before you can create one with someone else.
The line within the movie, "Jerry McGuire," delivered brilliantly by Tom Cruise to Renee Zellweger, "You complete me," was emotional and we tend to all gasped or said, "Awww..." in unison however it had been a MOVIE and strictly for entertainment purposes only.
Even Oprah mentioned how much that line messed us up and I have to agree wholeheartedly.
Once we enter into a relationship feeling like Swiss cheese with numerous holes to fill with somebody else's strength, emotion, expertise or physical ability, we have a tendency to are announcing that we have a tendency to are incomplete. We are saying that we can't handle life on our own and want somebody to help us through it. Granted, everyone may feel that way every now and then but to seek someone else to complete you could be a disaster looking ahead to good timing!
We tend to must accept that although we are here to help one another, we tend to are all complete on our own; whole, wonderful (with all of our flaws), kinsmen here for the purpose of being the most effective we tend to will be.
When we are Swiss cheese, we attract other incomplete folks fascinated by somebody completing them. Those who ask for weak, insecure people so as to feel stronger may be abusive (verbally, mentally, emotionally and or physically) as the ability-fix is the common goal of all abusers. Not all people who obtain incomplete folks for relationships are abusive however several are and therefore the others can't be mentally and emotionally healthy themselves or they would not be attracted to incomplete people.