Polyandry gaining its roots in Kenya
In the latest headline an anonymous lady managed to keep two men in a marriage. This matrimonial marriage did become one of the top stories in the Kenyan news rooms. Some people asking themselves how did this come to happen or are the men that desperate to share a single wife. Also how does a man take up the leadership role of his family knowing very well that there is another man standing on the way in that marriage. It is true and important that these two men had to compose a list of regulations to govern them or else end up having an endless fight. To me it is clear that conflicts were the daily ingredient among these three. If we will go to the extent of drafting some rules, then the marriage in not comfortable and no equal openness.
It is said that in a polygamous marriage when a second wife comes you should not be surprised when you see the fourth and fifth wife. Also in this short lived polyandry, a third husband might have found his way in this famous marriage. Of which the well written list of regulations may have called in for immediate amendments to include this new husband agenda. Then here comes in the politics and house wide campaign of Yes or No, example of the Kenyan style of color; Green or Red, maybe the sweet fruits; Banana or Orange. All of the three men going for the majority vote support from their queen. Then the child comes later in the marriage, but the big question being who the possible biological father is. In short who among the three men is the top most hard working and determined husband. How then are the children named? I would support polyandry if it is the only way to end tribalism and ethnicity in Kenya. Let leave it at that, there was no third man in this marriage. Hence let us not increase the polyandry victim list into two.
But the bad side of it is that they agreed to keep this marriage as a secret among three of them. Therefore that man allowing and giving the story to the news men already had broken the first promise. Secondly the man agreed to stay and enter in that marriage as a second husband knowing very well that this was a well established relationship. Our law forbids any one entering it an already existing and established legal marriage.
Few days later the imposer lamented being very depressed at the work place because the only story in the work place was about that relationship. He is said to be dealing with heavy machines and very dangerous for unfocused and depressed controller. Hence the chances of being fired, resigning or finally injuring himself was very high. Even his boss was carried away by that story to the extent of giving him big break and start asking him about this marriage.
Women are too many in numbers, that's the fact. This is the main reason of which the majorities' women condemn polyandry. The latest census have also shown that the ratio of women is high than that of the men. I do not say this to support those who marry four to five wives. If for instance we would support polygamy we would go to the limit of having only two loving wives. The century of having five wives and dividing your inherited land into five portions is gone. Women are fighting for equality, of which comes with great responsibilities. So let us be equal in the marriage and share the responsibilities proportionally. So as a husband take up the school fees, rent and electricity bill according to the level of his income. Then the wife should not complain to buy food and reduce the unnecessary spending in the house. Mostly in the digital generation men go for and date financially stable ladies.
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There may be lack of equal submission to both men as they overwhelming shower excess love to their queen. A man should love and respect his wife, and a wife should make his man the king of the house. But with two men in marriage who will be the anointed king.
In the latest headline an anonymous lady managed to keep two men in a marriage. This matrimonial marriage did become one of the top stories in the Kenyan news rooms. Some people asking themselves how did this come to happen or are the men that desperate to share a single wife. Also how does a man take up the leadership role of his family knowing very well that there is another man standing on the way in that marriage. It is true and important that these two men had to compose a list of regulations to govern them or else end up having an endless fight. To me it is clear that conflicts were the daily ingredient among these three. If we will go to the extent of drafting some rules, then the marriage in not comfortable and no equal openness.
It is said that in a polygamous marriage when a second wife comes you should not be surprised when you see the fourth and fifth wife. Also in this short lived polyandry, a third husband might have found his way in this famous marriage. Of which the well written list of regulations may have called in for immediate amendments to include this new husband agenda. Then here comes in the politics and house wide campaign of Yes or No, example of the Kenyan style of color; Green or Red, maybe the sweet fruits; Banana or Orange. All of the three men going for the majority vote support from their queen. Then the child comes later in the marriage, but the big question being who the possible biological father is. In short who among the three men is the top most hard working and determined husband. How then are the children named? I would support polyandry if it is the only way to end tribalism and ethnicity in Kenya. Let leave it at that, there was no third man in this marriage. Hence let us not increase the polyandry victim list into two.
But the bad side of it is that they agreed to keep this marriage as a secret among three of them. Therefore that man allowing and giving the story to the news men already had broken the first promise. Secondly the man agreed to stay and enter in that marriage as a second husband knowing very well that this was a well established relationship. Our law forbids any one entering it an already existing and established legal marriage.
Few days later the imposer lamented being very depressed at the work place because the only story in the work place was about that relationship. He is said to be dealing with heavy machines and very dangerous for unfocused and depressed controller. Hence the chances of being fired, resigning or finally injuring himself was very high. Even his boss was carried away by that story to the extent of giving him big break and start asking him about this marriage.
Women are too many in numbers, that's the fact. This is the main reason of which the majorities' women condemn polyandry. The latest census have also shown that the ratio of women is high than that of the men. I do not say this to support those who marry four to five wives. If for instance we would support polygamy we would go to the limit of having only two loving wives. The century of having five wives and dividing your inherited land into five portions is gone. Women are fighting for equality, of which comes with great responsibilities. So let us be equal in the marriage and share the responsibilities proportionally. So as a husband take up the school fees, rent and electricity bill according to the level of his income. Then the wife should not complain to buy food and reduce the unnecessary spending in the house. Mostly in the digital generation men go for and date financially stable ladies.
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There may be lack of equal submission to both men as they overwhelming shower excess love to their queen. A man should love and respect his wife, and a wife should make his man the king of the house. But with two men in marriage who will be the anointed king.