How to Keep the Juices Flowing After Menopause
- 1). Find a Gynecologist
Finding a gynecologist that you feel comfortable with is the first step in dealing with the symptoms of menopause and their effect on your sex life. Don't just pick the first person that comes along. Get referrals from friends and then ask for an initial meeting making it clear that you are checking out several doctors to find a good fit. Some doctors also specialize in menopause related symptoms. - 2). Use it or Lose It
If you've been having consistent sex throughout a long term marriage or partnership or even through serial monogamous relationships than you already are taking a good step in keeping the juices flowing. The more sex you have the more your body will keep your vaginal walls lubricated. You may have minimal problems in this arena if this is the case, but you will likely still need a lubricant to make sex easier. Slippery stuff is one personal lubricant that works well for woman. KY jelly can also be used. If you use condoms, check out my condom article listed next to this article to ensure you are using them properly if STDs or pregnancy are a concern. If you haven't been sexually active, a new sex partner will be more challenging. You will be tighter and have less lubrication to work with then someone who has been more sexually active. You can use a dildo or even your fingers to stretch out your vaginal walls, but this must be done slowly. You can ask your gynecologist for a prescription for a low dose of estrogen. One that works well is the E-string which you insert like a diaphragm once every 3 months. This puts out a continuous low level of estrogen and is even given to woman who've had breast cancer, so is considered low risk. This will help keep you lubricated. - 3). Health and Opportunity
The healthier you are and the less medications you take the better to keep the flame alive. Of course having a loving and willing sex partner or the opportunity is essential. Romance is also important particularly in the older years when the drive of hormones is more in the background but our brains, our biggest sex organ, still needs to be tantalized. There is some research that also shows that people who maintain a healthy sex life into their later years also live longer. So just because you've hit menopause doens't mean your sex life is over, you might just have to try a little harder to ensure your body works well.