- 1). Determine the cause of your conflict. Note if anyone besides yourself will be affected by your decision or if your decision will alter the course of your life. This will help you determine any issues that are causing the conflict.
- 2). Write the consequences of all the options available to you. On a sheet of paper, draw columns for each option available to you and label each accordingly. Draw a line across the columns to create two rows and label the top row "positives" and the bottom row "negatives." Write the positive and negative consequences in the appropriate row and column.
- 3). Choose which positives and negatives will have the most impact on you or others and note what negatives outweigh the positives out of all of your options. This will help you narrow down your choices based on what you believe will have the best outcomes.
- 4). Share your thoughts with an objective friend, mentor or family member who won't be affected by the issue that is causing you conflict. Note the positives and negatives of all of your options and ask that they share their perspective on the situation at hand. Presenting your information to them in this way will help them understand the source of your conflict and the issues at stake in your decision-making.
- 5). Make a decision based on your determination of consequences and outside perspectives. No matter what, it is important that you make a decision on the issue that is causing you conflict to relieve yourself and others of the uncertainty of your choices. You can make a decision in confidence to relieve your inner conflict knowing that you have weighed all options and consequences and are making the best decision you can.
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