Hey Ladies, are you going through an unwanted separation from your boyfriend or husband? I know how difficult this is as I have been there and the suffering and pain of a relationship breaking up is almost too much to take. Right now you probably feel like crawling into bed, pulling the covers over your head and staying there until this all goes away, but take heart! There is a way through this, and there is hope, so peek out from under those covers and listen up. Love breaking up can be an opportunity!
If you are serious about saving your relationship the first thing you must do is calm that intense over anxious feeling you have in the pit of your stomach. This feeling will cause you to act in a way that is counter productive to what you are trying to do, which is rekindle your love with the man you love. It is human nature to resist pressure of any sort, and especially pressure from someone you have had a relationship with so the more you push, the more he will pull away. Pushing is emailing, texting, calling, trying to get his attention in any way. All of this needs to stop, even though you feel driven to do it, just stop!
The smartest and hardest thing you must do right now is cut off all contact. Just for a little while. I know this is the very last thing you want to do, but it is crucial! Shift your focus to your own life and look at ways you can improve yourself and your life. Force yourself to go out with friends and have fun. Get involved with other people, clubs, groups, volunteer, anything, just make sure that, for a time, there is no contact and you are very busy. Stay busy with yourself however..no dating, breaking up, dating again drama. Trying to make your man jealous with another man is dangerous ground.
There will be a shift in your boyfriend or husband during this time. Because you are no longer pursuing him with all those text messages and calls, he will begin to view you differently and wonder how and what you are doing. He will probably begin to miss you which is something he couldn't do while you were constantly available to him. It's human nature...most of us want what we can't have. Don't try to work against human nature, work with it, because you're certainly not going to change it.
By taking these steps you are doing several things. Making it possible for your boyfriend or husband to remember why he fell in love with you in the first place. You are learning and growing as a person, getting yourself ready to be in the relationship again and making it even better than before. And finally, you are showing your man that you are strong, focused, and a woman that he should respect and love. Never forget, a woman who values herself and knows she is a prize, is very attractive to everyone around her and especially to her man.
If you are serious about saving your relationship the first thing you must do is calm that intense over anxious feeling you have in the pit of your stomach. This feeling will cause you to act in a way that is counter productive to what you are trying to do, which is rekindle your love with the man you love. It is human nature to resist pressure of any sort, and especially pressure from someone you have had a relationship with so the more you push, the more he will pull away. Pushing is emailing, texting, calling, trying to get his attention in any way. All of this needs to stop, even though you feel driven to do it, just stop!
The smartest and hardest thing you must do right now is cut off all contact. Just for a little while. I know this is the very last thing you want to do, but it is crucial! Shift your focus to your own life and look at ways you can improve yourself and your life. Force yourself to go out with friends and have fun. Get involved with other people, clubs, groups, volunteer, anything, just make sure that, for a time, there is no contact and you are very busy. Stay busy with yourself however..no dating, breaking up, dating again drama. Trying to make your man jealous with another man is dangerous ground.
There will be a shift in your boyfriend or husband during this time. Because you are no longer pursuing him with all those text messages and calls, he will begin to view you differently and wonder how and what you are doing. He will probably begin to miss you which is something he couldn't do while you were constantly available to him. It's human nature...most of us want what we can't have. Don't try to work against human nature, work with it, because you're certainly not going to change it.
By taking these steps you are doing several things. Making it possible for your boyfriend or husband to remember why he fell in love with you in the first place. You are learning and growing as a person, getting yourself ready to be in the relationship again and making it even better than before. And finally, you are showing your man that you are strong, focused, and a woman that he should respect and love. Never forget, a woman who values herself and knows she is a prize, is very attractive to everyone around her and especially to her man.