How Looking After Your Skin Improves Your Chances of Marriage - A Guide for African-American Women
As an African American woman, you hear all manner of negative reports of black women not being married, and being single mothers.
On the flip side, we also hear of black women, going into higher education in droves, surpassing men in the attainment of higher college degrees, and yet black women remain unmarried, or if they do get married, divorce rates are high.
Though this is not a paper, on the socioeconomic, and indeed cultural factors that lead to failing marriages and unsuccessful relationships, we will take a general overview of what is a complex problem that will eventually require relatively simple solutions.
The simple solutions, relating to the issue of marriage, in the black "community", that encompasses every facet of our lives: Self respect.
That is all, nothing more.
So simple, yet an all embracing idea.
What does it mean though, in practice? It is all well, when we use feel good sayings like "black women are queens"...
but queens of what? Also...
when it comes to behaviour, and decorum, do they behave as such? It's the same with black men...
they use high epithets, yet where is it in reality, in objective truth.
The respect that is required means, mutual respect.
There needs to be mutual respect between black women and black men, in order for us, to individually, and collectively deal with the coming economic, and social upheavals that will affect us.
Respect, is where it starts.
How does this relate, to looking after your skin? Or indeed marriage? Let us look into it.
Black women, spend inordinate almost obscene amounts of money on hair weaves, which, is of bad quality, can lead to acne, and skin blemishes.
Black women spend money; it seems, in order to emulate a European American ideal of beauty, white, slim affluent.
That has become, on a subconscious level the ideal, that women of every ethnic group aspire to emulate.
(Not the trailer trash of course, let's get that correct!) The proliferation of blonde lace wigs, and weaves, is an indication of that subconscious desire among a lot of African American women, regardless of loud shouts to the contrary.
Yet they do not emulate the love, and care, that women of other ethnic groups have toward their skin.
Both whites and Asians spend significant amounts of money on looking after their skin, with the skincare industry collectively being worth a staggering $43 Billion per year.
It is however, difficult, to find amongst throngs of ordinary black women, any widespread usage of high quality exfoliators, cleansers, face masks, complexion creams, or anti-aging creams.
The fallacy of black women, is the belief that in Western environments, that their skin does not age as rapidly as other ethnic groups, when in actuality, outside our natural tropical environments: black skin suffers, and degenerates.
This is why a skincare regime, that can truly take care of the needs of black skin of all hues is required.
And yet African American women, do not invest in their best asset: Their skin.
Again, this relates back to healthy self-respect, and actions, being congruent with titles or epithets.
In short, you cannot be a queen, if you have ashy skin, are morbidly obese, or possess skin with acne that has never been exfoliated, treated, subject to a regular regime of skincare, or in short been really looked after.
Having false acrylic nails, or a cartoon colored weave will not save you from these facts.
Bad skin, s bad skin, no matter how it is presented.
If your skin looks clear, and your grooming and clothing is of high quality and you associate with aspirational people, then your pool of better quality potential mates for marriage increases significantly.
Having clear, well looked after skin, is a hallmark of affluent women of all ethnic groups, and the common thread that binds affluent women, is that they are in stable marriages.
Black women who seek to be valued, and considered worthy of marriage, must, in concert with looking after their outward appearance, must work on self-respect and self-value.
This extends outwardly, as respect for the men they are in a relationship with, respect for the relationship itself, and respect for their appearance and maintaining their appearance.
Having high personal standards and maintaining them.
African American women, need to be conscious of these things, in order to be actual marriage material, and actually making a marriage work.
A man that has any true self worth, wants to be proud of his wife, he wants to work to please her, and he wants to worship her as a personal goddess.
He wants to stay in a committed relationship.
Why not give a man, the ideal of beauty that he desperately wants to worship, and most importantly, demonstrate, your own self-worth to yourself, by investing in looking after your skin.
Using specialist black skincare products, that enhance the look of your skin, will be the first in a series of steps that you will take, in creating a new you, that represents an ideal for a good man to marry, and have the life and love that you deserve to have.
On the flip side, we also hear of black women, going into higher education in droves, surpassing men in the attainment of higher college degrees, and yet black women remain unmarried, or if they do get married, divorce rates are high.
Though this is not a paper, on the socioeconomic, and indeed cultural factors that lead to failing marriages and unsuccessful relationships, we will take a general overview of what is a complex problem that will eventually require relatively simple solutions.
The simple solutions, relating to the issue of marriage, in the black "community", that encompasses every facet of our lives: Self respect.
That is all, nothing more.
So simple, yet an all embracing idea.
What does it mean though, in practice? It is all well, when we use feel good sayings like "black women are queens"...
but queens of what? Also...
when it comes to behaviour, and decorum, do they behave as such? It's the same with black men...
they use high epithets, yet where is it in reality, in objective truth.
The respect that is required means, mutual respect.
There needs to be mutual respect between black women and black men, in order for us, to individually, and collectively deal with the coming economic, and social upheavals that will affect us.
Respect, is where it starts.
How does this relate, to looking after your skin? Or indeed marriage? Let us look into it.
Black women, spend inordinate almost obscene amounts of money on hair weaves, which, is of bad quality, can lead to acne, and skin blemishes.
Black women spend money; it seems, in order to emulate a European American ideal of beauty, white, slim affluent.
That has become, on a subconscious level the ideal, that women of every ethnic group aspire to emulate.
(Not the trailer trash of course, let's get that correct!) The proliferation of blonde lace wigs, and weaves, is an indication of that subconscious desire among a lot of African American women, regardless of loud shouts to the contrary.
Yet they do not emulate the love, and care, that women of other ethnic groups have toward their skin.
Both whites and Asians spend significant amounts of money on looking after their skin, with the skincare industry collectively being worth a staggering $43 Billion per year.
It is however, difficult, to find amongst throngs of ordinary black women, any widespread usage of high quality exfoliators, cleansers, face masks, complexion creams, or anti-aging creams.
The fallacy of black women, is the belief that in Western environments, that their skin does not age as rapidly as other ethnic groups, when in actuality, outside our natural tropical environments: black skin suffers, and degenerates.
This is why a skincare regime, that can truly take care of the needs of black skin of all hues is required.
And yet African American women, do not invest in their best asset: Their skin.
Again, this relates back to healthy self-respect, and actions, being congruent with titles or epithets.
In short, you cannot be a queen, if you have ashy skin, are morbidly obese, or possess skin with acne that has never been exfoliated, treated, subject to a regular regime of skincare, or in short been really looked after.
Having false acrylic nails, or a cartoon colored weave will not save you from these facts.
Bad skin, s bad skin, no matter how it is presented.
If your skin looks clear, and your grooming and clothing is of high quality and you associate with aspirational people, then your pool of better quality potential mates for marriage increases significantly.
Having clear, well looked after skin, is a hallmark of affluent women of all ethnic groups, and the common thread that binds affluent women, is that they are in stable marriages.
Black women who seek to be valued, and considered worthy of marriage, must, in concert with looking after their outward appearance, must work on self-respect and self-value.
This extends outwardly, as respect for the men they are in a relationship with, respect for the relationship itself, and respect for their appearance and maintaining their appearance.
Having high personal standards and maintaining them.
African American women, need to be conscious of these things, in order to be actual marriage material, and actually making a marriage work.
A man that has any true self worth, wants to be proud of his wife, he wants to work to please her, and he wants to worship her as a personal goddess.
He wants to stay in a committed relationship.
Why not give a man, the ideal of beauty that he desperately wants to worship, and most importantly, demonstrate, your own self-worth to yourself, by investing in looking after your skin.
Using specialist black skincare products, that enhance the look of your skin, will be the first in a series of steps that you will take, in creating a new you, that represents an ideal for a good man to marry, and have the life and love that you deserve to have.