In toddler development, Terrible Twos behaviour is natural behaviour for growing toddlers.
It has nothing to do with good or bad children.
It's completely natural for your toddler to start saying NO! This behaviour can begin anytime during your child's second year, so expect it anytime after his/her first birthday.
Yes, terrible twos behaviour happens with one year olds as well! Your toddler may have frequent temper tantrums and mood changes, become quite negative and constantly say no! Terrible Twos behaviour is about testing boundaries and finding limits.
There is no other way a child can learn for himself what limits and boundaries are unless they are pushed against, tried and experimented with.
Toddlers need firm, clear, patient, consistent parents who can set age appropriate boundaries and create safety for their toddler's exploration.
A toddler's natural curiosity encourages him to explore through look, touch, taste and feel.
This may mean child proofing a room or two and child proofing outdoor play areas.
Your toddler needs you to make it a safe environment for him to play in and explore.
Otherwise he continually gets into trouble for touching things that you have left in his way.
It helps to know that this is a normal stage in your child's development.
Your child isn't purposely being defiant, rebellious or getting at you with this behaviour.
He just doesn't have the language skills to express his wants and needs while experiencing his growing independence.
This lack in language and communication skills can also often explain why your toddler's frequent frustration leads to tantrums and he begins hitting and biting when he doesn't get what he wants.
It becomes doubly important during this feisty stage of toddler development to be clear, firm and consistent in both your routines and in your approach.
A consistent environment is a safe haven for a tempestuous two year.
When he feels out of control, at least he learns he can trust in you as his parents to maintain control for him.
Be clear about setting limits and don't give in to his temper tantrums when he sets out to test these limits.
It's OK to ask questions.
I think all parents of young children should write this out and pin it to the wall.
A child's basic curiosity becomes the basis of his risk taking in the future.
Don't teach him to fear new experiences by giving him negative feedback for his boundless natural curiosity.
Heaps of patience from you is invaluable for his learning.
If his constant questions are handled with respect and patience then your toddler learns confidence, esteem, and acceptance as well as gaining new knowledge as you answer his questions.
It's Mine! When toddlers say "It's mine", they are learning what is theirs in order to know what belongs to someone else.
This is a valuable step in learning how to share.
Once a toddler knows his ownership of a possession, he is often able to share more readily because he can trust in the knowledge that it is his.
Parents constantly reprimand their toddler for not sharing, when often the toddler has no understanding of this.
Some toddlers easily give away their toys and share their food, while for others it is a much harder lesson to learn.
If your terrible twos child is struggling with sharing, try allowing him ownership first by allowing his to know "it's mine".
Rather than seeming selfish, sharing often comes from knowledge of ownership.
It has nothing to do with good or bad children.
It's completely natural for your toddler to start saying NO! This behaviour can begin anytime during your child's second year, so expect it anytime after his/her first birthday.
Yes, terrible twos behaviour happens with one year olds as well! Your toddler may have frequent temper tantrums and mood changes, become quite negative and constantly say no! Terrible Twos behaviour is about testing boundaries and finding limits.
There is no other way a child can learn for himself what limits and boundaries are unless they are pushed against, tried and experimented with.
Toddlers need firm, clear, patient, consistent parents who can set age appropriate boundaries and create safety for their toddler's exploration.
A toddler's natural curiosity encourages him to explore through look, touch, taste and feel.
This may mean child proofing a room or two and child proofing outdoor play areas.
Your toddler needs you to make it a safe environment for him to play in and explore.
Otherwise he continually gets into trouble for touching things that you have left in his way.
It helps to know that this is a normal stage in your child's development.
Your child isn't purposely being defiant, rebellious or getting at you with this behaviour.
He just doesn't have the language skills to express his wants and needs while experiencing his growing independence.
This lack in language and communication skills can also often explain why your toddler's frequent frustration leads to tantrums and he begins hitting and biting when he doesn't get what he wants.
It becomes doubly important during this feisty stage of toddler development to be clear, firm and consistent in both your routines and in your approach.
A consistent environment is a safe haven for a tempestuous two year.
When he feels out of control, at least he learns he can trust in you as his parents to maintain control for him.
Be clear about setting limits and don't give in to his temper tantrums when he sets out to test these limits.
It's OK to ask questions.
I think all parents of young children should write this out and pin it to the wall.
A child's basic curiosity becomes the basis of his risk taking in the future.
Don't teach him to fear new experiences by giving him negative feedback for his boundless natural curiosity.
Heaps of patience from you is invaluable for his learning.
If his constant questions are handled with respect and patience then your toddler learns confidence, esteem, and acceptance as well as gaining new knowledge as you answer his questions.
It's Mine! When toddlers say "It's mine", they are learning what is theirs in order to know what belongs to someone else.
This is a valuable step in learning how to share.
Once a toddler knows his ownership of a possession, he is often able to share more readily because he can trust in the knowledge that it is his.
Parents constantly reprimand their toddler for not sharing, when often the toddler has no understanding of this.
Some toddlers easily give away their toys and share their food, while for others it is a much harder lesson to learn.
If your terrible twos child is struggling with sharing, try allowing him ownership first by allowing his to know "it's mine".
Rather than seeming selfish, sharing often comes from knowledge of ownership.