Sometimes a man can have conflicting goals in terms of what he is trying to accomplish with women even though on the surface they seem to be in alignment.

For instance, many men learn the different ways to pick up women in the hopes of becoming a pick up artist who attracts women.

When truth be told pick up artist don’t actually attract women as much as they seduce them.

Of course, this isn’t a bad thing as the women that they successfully seduce generally are looking for a romantic night seduction.

Both of which are all well and good in the short term which seduction and the pick up arts is all about.

However, in terms of attracting women, being a pick up artist doesn’t really help you much once you stop being a pick up artist and start being your “real” self and she starts wanting something that is realer than fancy lines and the ability to escalate in the moment.

Now, every so often as a pick up artist you might luck up and seduce a woman that you actually click with and connect with but the majority of the time this isn’t going to be the case because it is very difficult to pick up a woman without being the real you and then attract her with the real you.

It’s like Superman and Clark Kent only you really aren’t and don’t know how to consistently be Superman.

What all of this basically means is you can spend your time, money, and energy on becoming someone that you really don’t want to be in order to one day attract a woman who will want the real you or you can choose now to invest all of those resources on becoming the best you that you can possibly be and attracting women rather than just picking them up.