Do you wonder if you can be both single and happy? Do you think other people can make you happy or sad? Are you one of the many people who think your partner is supposed to make you happy? Do you think that person makes you sad or angry sometimes? Can't happen.
Only you can cause you to feel happy, sad or angry.
If you blame someone for how you feel then you fail to take responsibility for your actions-or more likely, the actions you fail to take.
People treat you the way they see you treat yourself.
In my psychotherapy days I often heard women lament they felt like doormats.
They said their family walked all over them No one can make you feel used unless you decide to feel that way and allow them to treat you in ways you can interpret that way.
You train others how to treat you.
So why do so many women teach others to treat them as maids, servants, cooks and chauffeurs? Do you know what I mean? Am I describing you? I used to be that way.
I thought my family was so thoughtless.
I was always exhausted meeting their needs.
In fact, I lived in my story of how unfairly they treated me.
Story? Exactly.
That is what I told myself about my life.
Was it real? For me it certainly seemed accurate.
I only sorted for the behaviors that fit that story.
If my family did great things for me then I missed them.
I just didn't see them or failed to remember them shortly afterward.
Sad to say many of us live that way.
Events just happen.
The only meaning they have is the one we assign to them.
Nothing is inherently good or bad.
Things just are.
We make up stories about what they mean and then we live in those stories instead of living in truth.
We disempower ourselves-or so we lead ourselves to believe that myth.
For the truth is our power lies within us.
No one can touch it or alter it in any way-except us.
When I left my 31-year marriage I woke up.
I stopped all the stories about my world.
That simple change led me to live in happiness.
I did it and you can too.
Don't think it over.
Just do it now.
Warning: Do not neglect the above exercise! Be sure to take this advice seriously if you want to create your dream relationship and live in happiness.
Only you can cause you to feel happy, sad or angry.
If you blame someone for how you feel then you fail to take responsibility for your actions-or more likely, the actions you fail to take.
People treat you the way they see you treat yourself.
In my psychotherapy days I often heard women lament they felt like doormats.
They said their family walked all over them No one can make you feel used unless you decide to feel that way and allow them to treat you in ways you can interpret that way.
You train others how to treat you.
So why do so many women teach others to treat them as maids, servants, cooks and chauffeurs? Do you know what I mean? Am I describing you? I used to be that way.
I thought my family was so thoughtless.
I was always exhausted meeting their needs.
In fact, I lived in my story of how unfairly they treated me.
Story? Exactly.
That is what I told myself about my life.
Was it real? For me it certainly seemed accurate.
I only sorted for the behaviors that fit that story.
If my family did great things for me then I missed them.
I just didn't see them or failed to remember them shortly afterward.
Sad to say many of us live that way.
Events just happen.
The only meaning they have is the one we assign to them.
Nothing is inherently good or bad.
Things just are.
We make up stories about what they mean and then we live in those stories instead of living in truth.
We disempower ourselves-or so we lead ourselves to believe that myth.
For the truth is our power lies within us.
No one can touch it or alter it in any way-except us.
When I left my 31-year marriage I woke up.
I stopped all the stories about my world.
That simple change led me to live in happiness.
I did it and you can too.
Don't think it over.
Just do it now.
Warning: Do not neglect the above exercise! Be sure to take this advice seriously if you want to create your dream relationship and live in happiness.