When you've lived the last couple of years being one-half of a couple and you suddenly lose this status, it's understandable that you all of a sudden feel lost and unsure of what to do.
Turning single may post a serious challenge to some; finding your next love match, after all, is easier said than done.
However, it is not necessarily a major stumbling block.
Finding your next meaningful relationship can start the minute you decide that you are ready.
So how do you begin getting ready to get back in the dating game? Here are some pointers to get you started: oLose the self-pity.
If you've been dumped, it's easy to lose confidence and wallow in self-pity.
This is your biggest stumbling block.
But if you can get past "poor me," it will be easier to start making connections that could probably lead to a perfect match.
oDo the makeover.
A makeover is the surest way to boost confidence.
There's something about sporting a new 'do' or wearing cool, new clothes that make you feel like a totally new person.
But the makeover should not begin and end with shopping or a salon visit.
Work on threshing out the negative stuff, and work on the positive.
And right now, you need a new, better version of you to connect better with other people.
oEstablish your support system.
To successfully find your next love match, you need to surround yourself with people who will cheer you on.
Naysayers will only cause you to doubt yourself.
Friends who've taken on a jaded view of relationships will not only make you doubt yourself, they'll also make you doubt every new connection you make.
Find people who also believe in the possibility of finding your perfect match.
oFind love and happiness on your own.
Ever been attracted to a sourpuss? (I didn't think so.
) People gravitate towards people who exude positivity, light, and bliss.
And if you learn to find love and happiness in what you already have-and not necessarily in another person-then you will take on a more attractive aura.
Having a relationship with a person is great, but don't forget about your other relationships-with friends, family, and most importantly, with yourself.
oWork on finding The One.
He/she won't magically appear.
(Although that may happen, it won't happen if you stay holed up in your room or turn into a social outcast.
) Connect! Go to parties, have a night out with the boys/girls, have yourself set up by friends or family, join online dating site and widen your network.
Try every possible route-traditional or non-traditional-in finding your love match.
He/she is out there-and you have to find ways to hunt him/her down.
Lastly, believe in the possibilities.
Believe in the possibility to heal from a bad breakup.
Believe in the possibility of establishing connections.
Believe in the possibility that when you lose one, you gain another-possibly better-love match.
Turning single may post a serious challenge to some; finding your next love match, after all, is easier said than done.
However, it is not necessarily a major stumbling block.
Finding your next meaningful relationship can start the minute you decide that you are ready.
So how do you begin getting ready to get back in the dating game? Here are some pointers to get you started: oLose the self-pity.
If you've been dumped, it's easy to lose confidence and wallow in self-pity.
This is your biggest stumbling block.
But if you can get past "poor me," it will be easier to start making connections that could probably lead to a perfect match.
oDo the makeover.
A makeover is the surest way to boost confidence.
There's something about sporting a new 'do' or wearing cool, new clothes that make you feel like a totally new person.
But the makeover should not begin and end with shopping or a salon visit.
Work on threshing out the negative stuff, and work on the positive.
And right now, you need a new, better version of you to connect better with other people.
oEstablish your support system.
To successfully find your next love match, you need to surround yourself with people who will cheer you on.
Naysayers will only cause you to doubt yourself.
Friends who've taken on a jaded view of relationships will not only make you doubt yourself, they'll also make you doubt every new connection you make.
Find people who also believe in the possibility of finding your perfect match.
oFind love and happiness on your own.
Ever been attracted to a sourpuss? (I didn't think so.
) People gravitate towards people who exude positivity, light, and bliss.
And if you learn to find love and happiness in what you already have-and not necessarily in another person-then you will take on a more attractive aura.
Having a relationship with a person is great, but don't forget about your other relationships-with friends, family, and most importantly, with yourself.
oWork on finding The One.
He/she won't magically appear.
(Although that may happen, it won't happen if you stay holed up in your room or turn into a social outcast.
) Connect! Go to parties, have a night out with the boys/girls, have yourself set up by friends or family, join online dating site and widen your network.
Try every possible route-traditional or non-traditional-in finding your love match.
He/she is out there-and you have to find ways to hunt him/her down.
Lastly, believe in the possibilities.
Believe in the possibility to heal from a bad breakup.
Believe in the possibility of establishing connections.
Believe in the possibility that when you lose one, you gain another-possibly better-love match.