When we use EFT, much of our success depends on the words we use as we tap.
When my clients are new to EFT, they will often say, "I don't know what to say when I tap!" It's been my experience over the years that they don't know what to say because they launch into the tapping process without doing the detective work that is necessary beforehand.
Have you ever had this experience? You start with the set-up phrase, and the words are flowing nicely, and then as you start to tap the points on the body, you run out of things to say? You're not alone! Many things in life require preparation: a wonderful meal can take hours of chopping, mixing, baking, and steaming, before it is ready to be served; and a beautiful melody can take days of thought, practice, and fine tuning, before it is ready to be played.
The same is true of EFT.
It is an incredibly simple protocol to use AND there is some ground work that is necessary before the practical application starts.
So, before you start to tap, grab a pen and paper, and be prepared to write down your thoughts and feelings.
Here are some questions for you to answer which will help you get clear, and give you more than enough to say as you tap: 1.
What is the problem? Remember to be specific here: my EFT colleague, Alina Frank, talks about the Who, What, When, and Where of the problem.
For example, 'my boss yelled at me this morning in front of my co-workers'.
As opposed to 'my boss always makes me feel small and unimportant', which will have multiple aspects since it happens on a regular basis.
2.
How does that feel in my body? For example, 'my stomach is churning', 'my shoulders are tight', or 'my solar plexus is numb'.
This is a useful way of checking to see if the problem is resolving - the body will start to relax as you tap, and the sensations will ease.
3.
What is the emotion I feel now about that problem? For example, angry, belittled, disrespected, betrayed, etc.
4.
If the feeling was a picture, what would it look like? For example, 'a storm', 'a black scribble on a white page', 'an empty grey ball' This is useful for people who learn visually.
You may recall a picture you have seen, or you may draw a picture in your mind.
Whatever comes up, write it down.
Now you have a lot of content to use as you start tapping.
It's all written down in front of you, so all you have to do is refer to your notes as you tap.
I also suggest you ask this question: What does this problem remind me of? Your boss yelling at you might remind you of your teacher embarrassing you in class when you were 8, so it's important to go back to that memory and use the same questions so that you can tap on that memory also.
Now you have done the detective work, you are prepared for tapping, and your success rate will soar.
Also, because you have something to say as you tap, you'll want to tap - and there will be no resistance!
When my clients are new to EFT, they will often say, "I don't know what to say when I tap!" It's been my experience over the years that they don't know what to say because they launch into the tapping process without doing the detective work that is necessary beforehand.
Have you ever had this experience? You start with the set-up phrase, and the words are flowing nicely, and then as you start to tap the points on the body, you run out of things to say? You're not alone! Many things in life require preparation: a wonderful meal can take hours of chopping, mixing, baking, and steaming, before it is ready to be served; and a beautiful melody can take days of thought, practice, and fine tuning, before it is ready to be played.
The same is true of EFT.
It is an incredibly simple protocol to use AND there is some ground work that is necessary before the practical application starts.
So, before you start to tap, grab a pen and paper, and be prepared to write down your thoughts and feelings.
Here are some questions for you to answer which will help you get clear, and give you more than enough to say as you tap: 1.
What is the problem? Remember to be specific here: my EFT colleague, Alina Frank, talks about the Who, What, When, and Where of the problem.
For example, 'my boss yelled at me this morning in front of my co-workers'.
As opposed to 'my boss always makes me feel small and unimportant', which will have multiple aspects since it happens on a regular basis.
2.
How does that feel in my body? For example, 'my stomach is churning', 'my shoulders are tight', or 'my solar plexus is numb'.
This is a useful way of checking to see if the problem is resolving - the body will start to relax as you tap, and the sensations will ease.
3.
What is the emotion I feel now about that problem? For example, angry, belittled, disrespected, betrayed, etc.
4.
If the feeling was a picture, what would it look like? For example, 'a storm', 'a black scribble on a white page', 'an empty grey ball' This is useful for people who learn visually.
You may recall a picture you have seen, or you may draw a picture in your mind.
Whatever comes up, write it down.
Now you have a lot of content to use as you start tapping.
It's all written down in front of you, so all you have to do is refer to your notes as you tap.
I also suggest you ask this question: What does this problem remind me of? Your boss yelling at you might remind you of your teacher embarrassing you in class when you were 8, so it's important to go back to that memory and use the same questions so that you can tap on that memory also.
Now you have done the detective work, you are prepared for tapping, and your success rate will soar.
Also, because you have something to say as you tap, you'll want to tap - and there will be no resistance!