Love can be so confusing at times mainly because we do not know the proper definition ourselves.
Love, between couples, is when each person cares for and protects each other.
Affection is not some wild, untamed sexual desire.
Think with your heart and not with what is between your legs.
Do not confuse your man's feelings as sincere, unconditional love.
You may be 100% into this relationship, yet he seems so distant.
Distant as in part of you, or all of you knows that he wants once desire and one desire only; sex.
It seems like every day he is begging you to satisfy him sexually, and you are unsure if this is his way of showing his affection.
Girlfriend, it is not.
That is why you are seeking help.
The truth is he is only using you to satisfy a sexual need.
I was in a similar situation with my ex-boyfriend.
I know I talk about my ex a lot, but I learned so much from being with him.
But I stayed strong and used my wisdom to dump him for good.
To prove my case, I will list some aspects of a sex-crazed loser.
The first sign is him treating you like royalty for a few months.
Of course, this step might be skipped and replaced with a lot of kissing and hugging; more so than communicating, which is a huge problem.
You need communication in a successful relationship.
He might take you out to dinner, give you flowers, candy, other gifts, and making sure you do not lift a finger! He will even go so far as to say, "I love you," to seal the deal.
It seems perfect, but it is all going way too fast.
Do not get suckered into this trick! Afterwards, there are blunt hints that will have your alarm bells ringing! Like, your conversations that you will have with him will be more...
sensual.
He will be asking you to kiss him and "innocently" hug him.
Kiss your personal bubble goodbye because he will invade it when he can.
His hands will try to explore, if not all, most of your body; even your privates.
It is another test that guys like to pull to see if they can get you into bed.
Allowing him the right to touch you means that you want to have sex with him.
Not giving him the permission to touch you means that you are play hard to get and that he should try again; of course that is wrong.
Some males just do not understand the word "no" for some reason.
Also, his voice, for the most part, will be seductive.
Do not mistake his seduction as caring and compassionate.
Finally, if you still refuse him by this point, he will all of a sudden turn into a beast.
No Belle, I am not talking about The Beast from Disney's Beauty and The Beast; more like a dramatic transformation from Dr.
Jekyll to Mr.
Hyde.
You may experience the extremes of verbal abuse, physical abuse, rape, or death threats.
And then, he may go back to being a nice guy! What a crock! What happened to me was minor but still scared me to death.
My ex, every time he would talk to me, would always grunt like some sort of caveman trying to seduce his woman.
Any man should have the decency not to act like that and to express himself properly.
Along with his uncomfortable primitive communication, he would literally trap me in his arms and force me to kiss him.
Luckily, it was above the shoulders.
I felt as if I was an antelope caught between the lion's teeth.
It was embarrassing and frightening.
I thought I was going to be raped every time he dragged me away from peering eyes.
Now, I am not saying that you should give yourself up to whomever you are with.
As a matter of fact, that is the absolute worst idea you can do.
You could catch an STD from him, be forced to raise his and your child on your own (because sex-crazed boys do not take on any responsibility), or you could be trapped in an abusive relationship.
The best you can do is to completely separate yourself from him; no phone calls, delete him from your friend's list, seek help if needed (do not be afraid), and surround yourself with positive people who you know will help you if that boy of yours ever shows his tail again!
Love, between couples, is when each person cares for and protects each other.
Affection is not some wild, untamed sexual desire.
Think with your heart and not with what is between your legs.
Do not confuse your man's feelings as sincere, unconditional love.
You may be 100% into this relationship, yet he seems so distant.
Distant as in part of you, or all of you knows that he wants once desire and one desire only; sex.
It seems like every day he is begging you to satisfy him sexually, and you are unsure if this is his way of showing his affection.
Girlfriend, it is not.
That is why you are seeking help.
The truth is he is only using you to satisfy a sexual need.
I was in a similar situation with my ex-boyfriend.
I know I talk about my ex a lot, but I learned so much from being with him.
But I stayed strong and used my wisdom to dump him for good.
To prove my case, I will list some aspects of a sex-crazed loser.
The first sign is him treating you like royalty for a few months.
Of course, this step might be skipped and replaced with a lot of kissing and hugging; more so than communicating, which is a huge problem.
You need communication in a successful relationship.
He might take you out to dinner, give you flowers, candy, other gifts, and making sure you do not lift a finger! He will even go so far as to say, "I love you," to seal the deal.
It seems perfect, but it is all going way too fast.
Do not get suckered into this trick! Afterwards, there are blunt hints that will have your alarm bells ringing! Like, your conversations that you will have with him will be more...
sensual.
He will be asking you to kiss him and "innocently" hug him.
Kiss your personal bubble goodbye because he will invade it when he can.
His hands will try to explore, if not all, most of your body; even your privates.
It is another test that guys like to pull to see if they can get you into bed.
Allowing him the right to touch you means that you want to have sex with him.
Not giving him the permission to touch you means that you are play hard to get and that he should try again; of course that is wrong.
Some males just do not understand the word "no" for some reason.
Also, his voice, for the most part, will be seductive.
Do not mistake his seduction as caring and compassionate.
Finally, if you still refuse him by this point, he will all of a sudden turn into a beast.
No Belle, I am not talking about The Beast from Disney's Beauty and The Beast; more like a dramatic transformation from Dr.
Jekyll to Mr.
Hyde.
You may experience the extremes of verbal abuse, physical abuse, rape, or death threats.
And then, he may go back to being a nice guy! What a crock! What happened to me was minor but still scared me to death.
My ex, every time he would talk to me, would always grunt like some sort of caveman trying to seduce his woman.
Any man should have the decency not to act like that and to express himself properly.
Along with his uncomfortable primitive communication, he would literally trap me in his arms and force me to kiss him.
Luckily, it was above the shoulders.
I felt as if I was an antelope caught between the lion's teeth.
It was embarrassing and frightening.
I thought I was going to be raped every time he dragged me away from peering eyes.
Now, I am not saying that you should give yourself up to whomever you are with.
As a matter of fact, that is the absolute worst idea you can do.
You could catch an STD from him, be forced to raise his and your child on your own (because sex-crazed boys do not take on any responsibility), or you could be trapped in an abusive relationship.
The best you can do is to completely separate yourself from him; no phone calls, delete him from your friend's list, seek help if needed (do not be afraid), and surround yourself with positive people who you know will help you if that boy of yours ever shows his tail again!