After a heartbreaking break up with somebody you love, you probably have moments of doubt and wish that the two of you were still together.
The desire that the break up never happened and that you were once again a happy couple can plague your mind.
You may wish that you could take back everything that you said.
Unfortunately, what's done is done and getting back into your ex's good graces can be difficult.
The trick is not to revisit the past, but to look to the future and move forward.
If this is to be with your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend, then so be it.
However, you will have to know that you are already starting your renewed relationship on unsteady ground.
Any wrong moves or repeat of your past problems could destroy your relationship for good.
The biggest and toughest step you have to take to get your ex back is to take a step back from the relationship.
After a negative emotional trauma like a break up, your ex will need time to heal and get over the negative emotions that they have associated with you.
Give your ex some breathing room and let them come to the realization that they miss having you in their lives.
This step is critical to ensure that like you, they too miss the relationship and feel the desire to get back together.
While you are waiting, do not sit around and be depressed, go on with your life with confidence.
Let your ex see you moving on and their desire and longing will increase.
At this point, you will stand a very good chance of winning them over.
However, the most important part of this is to let them stew for a bit.
Never call them or visit them.
The trick is to keep them in suspense and wanting to be with you.
Their desperation will build up and only then should you slowly re-initiate contact with your ex.