Right at this moment you are in such a state of despair and desperately lonely, that all you can think of is doing all you can about winning your ex back.
Life just isn't the same anymore, and you are sure that it will never be - unless you can get your ex back into your life again.
You are doing nothing wrong by feeling this way - it is absolutely normal to feel like this right after your relationship has ended.
However, your emotions ARE clouding your judgement right now.
You are totally confused.
There is that bitter anger that you feel towards your ex, the pain about what your ex said to you, and the idea that your life will be a total mess if you don't try winning your ex back.
Now before you even think of trying to get your ex back into your life again, you need to get over all these feelings first - it is very important.
The feelings you have for your ex at this point in time are not really your true feelings - they are totally mixed up right now, and might not be the way you really feel about your ex at all.
Winning your ex back right now could end up being a big mistake.
So what you must do is to take some time to heal yourself completely after all you have been through.
Put your break up and your ex to one side for a while and concentrate solely on getting yourself feeling better.
You did things on your own before you got together with your ex, so you are quite capable of doing the same thing now.
Do things slowly, take it one step at a time, but whatever you do, make sure that it is something that will make you feel happy.
Also, make sue that you are with positive people - somehow this feeling will rub off on you if you are with them.
Once you are over the drama of the break up, and are feeling your old self again, make a decision as to how you feel about your ex.
Do you still have that yearning to try winning your ex back, or do you feel that you prefer being on your own right now? Weigh up your thoughts and then decide whether you want to get back together again or not.