Is It A Good Idea To Date Other Women If You Want Your Ex Back?
I am actually quite surprised at how often I get this puzzled look meeting me when I recommend to a guy who wants his ex back that he should also consider dating other women. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that men are conditioned to believe that they need to be a "one woman man" and they take that conditioning to the point where they even feel like they need to be this way after they have broken up with a woman. I wouldn't suggest that you do this if you were still in a relationship with her, but if you have broken up with your ex girlfriend, it really is not that bad to consider the idea of meeting and dating other women.
Won't That Make Her Jealous?
This is where it gets a little bit counter intuitive for most guys. You want it to make her a little bit jealous. You want to stoke that fire so that she has to confront the fact that she still has feelings for you. You want her to feel that way so that she understands that you are not going to always be an option that she can run back to when she feels like it. See, when you just sit around and wait for your ex girlfriend to come back, you are pretty much telling her that she can do whatever she wants and you will still be there. You don't want to do that.
You Are Showing Her That You Can Move On -
Another good thing that happens when you start dating other women, is that your ex girlfriend sees that you can move on. That is actually a good quality to have as a guy. You don't want her to think that you are one of those guys who lives in the past and can't move on with his life. Like I said, all of this can go against the grain of what you have been conditioned to believe that you should do, and that is why it actually works.
You Also Get To See If She Is Really Who You Want -
Lastly, when you start to date other women, you get to really get a good look at whether or not your ex girlfriend really is the right woman for you. You may be feeling like she definitely is right now, but if you happen to meet someone whom you have a good time with and you are attracted to, that may change. And that may not be such a bad thing if that means that you end up happier with a new woman than you would be with your ex girlfriend. All in all, it is a good idea for you to date other women even if you want your ex back.
Won't That Make Her Jealous?
This is where it gets a little bit counter intuitive for most guys. You want it to make her a little bit jealous. You want to stoke that fire so that she has to confront the fact that she still has feelings for you. You want her to feel that way so that she understands that you are not going to always be an option that she can run back to when she feels like it. See, when you just sit around and wait for your ex girlfriend to come back, you are pretty much telling her that she can do whatever she wants and you will still be there. You don't want to do that.
You Are Showing Her That You Can Move On -
Another good thing that happens when you start dating other women, is that your ex girlfriend sees that you can move on. That is actually a good quality to have as a guy. You don't want her to think that you are one of those guys who lives in the past and can't move on with his life. Like I said, all of this can go against the grain of what you have been conditioned to believe that you should do, and that is why it actually works.
You Also Get To See If She Is Really Who You Want -
Lastly, when you start to date other women, you get to really get a good look at whether or not your ex girlfriend really is the right woman for you. You may be feeling like she definitely is right now, but if you happen to meet someone whom you have a good time with and you are attracted to, that may change. And that may not be such a bad thing if that means that you end up happier with a new woman than you would be with your ex girlfriend. All in all, it is a good idea for you to date other women even if you want your ex back.