Have you ever wondered:what am I going to do to get through this feeling of poor self-esteem now that I have been left by my former significant other, spouse or partner?Surviving the pain of a breakup, separation, or a divorce is devastating when you can't seem to think clearly, and don't have others to talk with about taking the first steps to move past this feeling of isolation.
Have you had too much pride to even talk to others about what just happened?How do you even begin? Are you asking yourself:How can I just take some "baby steps" to start changing my thoughts so I don't feel so down and depressed about what happened?Well, wonder no more.
There are some steps you can take to move past this feeling of "being stuck.
"There are five rules that will help you thrive not just survive the pain of a breakup, separation or a divorce.
Let's take a look at them.
Rule #1: Select and associate with optimistic, high-energy people who will lift you up from the doldrums and get you out to experience life.
Eliminate spending time with those who are "downer" people in your life.
Associate with those who are "good role models" who are passionate about life and see the "glass half full" not "half empty.
"Being with those who exude energy will attract positive energy to you.
Rule #2:Focus on what you want in your life, not what is missing.
What you think about and concentrate on grows.
Focus your thought and efforts on what IS working, and what is going better and right in your life.
That will attract more of those experiences.
Rule #3:Stop listening to sad songs or stations programmed with topics that are depressing - - things that are notworking.
Turn your TV off for several months and stop watching news programs.
You have enough challenges right now in your own life and don't need to add the local and national news to your list.
Rule #4: Start feeding your mind with uplifting thoughts and ideas.
Just like you eat meals each day to nourish your body, think of ways to nurture your inner Self to keep a positive outlook and frame of mind as your go through your day.
Listen to audio tapes and CDs that are inspirational messages from motivational speaker like Deepak Chopra, Louise Hays, and Marianne Williamson.
Borrow these tapes and CDs from the public library and listen to them as you're getting dressed in the morning, when you're driving in the car and just before you go to bed at night.
Listen to audio tapes and CDs that catapult and inspire you to a higher level of success.
Rule #5:Reprogram your "inner computer.
"Pay attention to the words you say to others about your situation or about your "Self".
Our mind is like a tape recorder.
We take in what we hear and accept it as truth.
So be aware of any limiting thoughts or beliefs you say to yourself.
Notice what and how you talk about yourself.
Learn to reframe the sentences that sound negative.
Say positive statements, affirmations that you hold true about you and what you are accomplishing.
Our self-talk has a great influence on how we see ourselves.
It will take serious effort by you to re-program "old messages"that you have "played in your head" or believed about you over the years.
Take responsibility for what you say and how you talk about yourself.
Learn the words to use to program yourself positively and eliminate the words that are self-defeating.
"If it's to be, it's up to me.
" I invite you to implement these five rules for 30 days, and see the amazing results that you will receive because you believed in yourself.
Honor yourself and notice the "shift" that will happen.