The two critcal elements that go hand in hand with any kind of relationship are knowing that you must be prepared to make sacrifices and also accepting that you will need to make compromises. You are going to need to keep both of these things in mind if you are thinking of getting your ex boyfriend back. In truth, when trying to mend a broken relationship it's never easy. Within this article you will find some solid advice that will make the "getting back together" a lot less of a daunting task and may give him a few reasons to want to get back with you.

Firstly you need to stop obsessing over the question "How can I get back with my ex boyfriend?" and begin to focus on repairing what caused your relationship breakdown. By focussing on this you will be able to get rid of the stress and tension that could well have brought the breakup on in the first place.

So, the big question is "Where do you start when your thinking about getting your ex boyfriend back?"

When any kind of relationship breaks down we can take this as a very strong indication that something has gone desperately wrong. It's highly likely that it is one of two reasons why your boyfriend has left you:

1. There was not enough of "you" in the realtionship and therefore the relationship may have become stale or

2. There was too much of you because you were clingy and things became too claustrophobic.

Whichever way you choose to look at it, one of these causes is going to lead the way to what can only be described as "Relationship Suicide." So if you are asking yourself "How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend?", then in order to act accordingly you need to begin looking at which of these major factors may have contributed to your break up with him.

This may be a slightly harsh way to look at things, but whatever the main issue was that massively added to the split, it was highly likely to be something that you did or something that you did not do! Harsh yes, but put quite simply, that's usually how it works. The person who got broken up with, could have either done something or not done something and the person wanting to break the relationship up may have felt pushed away by these actions (or non-actions). So, now what? What can you do to get him to come back? To start with we need to work out what pushed him away in the first place and work on changing whatever it was.

It's time to sit down and take a long hard look at the situation. You need to ask the questions "What is it that made the breakup happen?", "Which of these were your fault and maybe could have been handled better?" and "Which of these things were not your fault and were out of your control?"

The reasons that were out of your control can be removed as they will very likely still be out of your control. Instead, focus on the things that you may have done wrong. Focus on the things that you feel you could have handled better or controlled better and that you can in fact change. If you were responsible for your biggest reason for the split and it is something you can change or put right, then there is an excellent chance that you can get him back. But you must however be sure that you are prepared to make the necessary changes and compromises that may be required to make him want you back again.

You need to "Learn How and Do the Do!"

It's not enough to LEARN How to get back with your ex boyfriend. Nothing will happen unless you DO something about it. So take action NOW!