- 1). Take the advice of the Mayo Clinic, which advises on its website that "the discovery of an affair can be intense. It's often helpful to take a 'timeout' when emotions are running high." Get out of town for the weekend, so you can process your raging emotions. Make a list in your journal of all the ways that your husband's infidelity have negatively affected you.
- 2). Make an appointment to sit down with your husband, bring along an impartial mediator if you think it will help keep things civil. Read the list you created in your journal aloud to your husband, and communicate how his infidelity has broken trust in your marriage. Explain that you love him but that it will take time for him to rebuild trust in your marriage.
- 3). Ask your husband to break off all contact with the woman he kissed. Tell him that if he wants to rebuild trust, he will need to be transparent with, and accountable to, you. Check his cell phone log randomly to make sure he is not calling strange women, go through his pockets regularly to look for receipts and call him at the office when he says he is working late to give yourself peace of mind that he is really there.
- 4). Attend marriage counseling with your husband, to isolate and address the root causes of the infidelity and mistrust in your marriage. Work to heal from individual trauma and unhealthy marital patterns, in order to help you rebuild a solid marriage union.
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