My parents, particularly my mother, taught me one of the basic rules of social respect was to exhibit good manners.
As far back as I can remember they told me to cover my mouth when I sneeze, always open the door for a lady, and don't interrupt someone whose talking especially someone older than you.
Pre-boomers know about good manners, because these concepts drummed into us at an early age.
These tenants were the rules for playing the game of life and served me well in school, in business, and in society in general.
My folks knew that it was important to make a good first impression, and then continue to make a lasting one.
Recently, in a business situation, a twenty-something young man addressed me by saying, "Dude, this is so cool.
You're gonna love it.
" I could have been his father maybe his grandfather.
Where were his manners? Smart business acumen would suggest he call me "Mister...
" or "Sir.
" Because of the situation, the use of my first name would have been appropriate.
But, dude was out of the question.
I said, "Excuse me.
" He responded with a blank stare.
So I said, "Please don't call me dude.
" Showing no emotion, the fellow continued with the transaction never again referring to me by any name or title.
I can only assume the man comes from a socially inept family.
Since he seemed relatively bright, it's hard to believe he forgot all his manner training.
I felt sorry for him.
It was apparent he had no idea why I didn't want to be called dude, or realize I didn't hear another word he said after his display of poor manners.
If the parents aren't teaching the fundamentals to upcoming generations, maybe the grandparents are going to have to show them the way.
And, from what I've observed lately, our future leaders sure need to get back to the basics in manners and a great deal more.