Relationships are founded in passion, provision, good deeds, faithfulness and trust. A healthy marriage believes in forgiveness and second chances. True love as     described in the biblical "agape", says it "does not keep record of wrongs" (1 Corinthians 13:5). There are some scenarios in a couple's intimacy though that one senses unusual observations or even reports worthy of the benefit of the doubt. It is always proper to check one's psychological or emotional health because paranoia isn't normal. Ask yourself whether you are just too suspicious. It is a disorder anyone must be aware of.
The need to catch the cheater in the relationship happens when trust is broken. Here are some ways that has been proven effective on how to catch a cheater:
VULNERABILITY
As you follow some trails of intuition or seeming evidence, it will be good to begin evaluating the environment in which your spouse works around. Are there vultures waiting on their prey? Some candidates to a rapacious character according to Dr. Dennis Brainey (psychologist) are secretaries, associates, business partners of the opposite sex. A high percentage of cheating happens in the context of work, and why not as they freely can develop appreciation, adoration and affection in their daily contacts.
VIOLATIONS
As you pursue your conviction, you will need to discover areas of inconsistencies. Is his previous statement contradicting the most recent? He said that he will go to Manila but went to Baguio instead. And he would not see the need to tell you unless found out. Is he violating decorum? Is your spouse usually with this person in a car, hotel meetings, conferences, travels or alone in the office till late at night or overnight? Would they give constant justification in the name of mission or worthy cause? When confronted, will they shrug it off as misinterpreted friendship even when it's silly discomforting to comrades? Is your spouse overspending? Is he in debt or living as survivor to many expenses when he should not be as others would kid around as having "unexplained poverty"?
VERIFICATION
To effectively catch a cheater some have employed witty gestures like applying cell phones of spouse for GPS or Global Positioning Satellite in order to locate them at certain times. After which they will hire somebody to find out who could he be visiting in such places or go there herself. I know of a young woman who did exactly that and found a nursing student on her seventh month pregnancy. And why would his husband visit a pregnant teenager in that place?
Some may place a recorder in their car to record cell phone conversations. What about a spy camera in the car also? Sounds like a James Bond act but any desperate person will likely do anything. You may also try checking wallet, attaché case for notes, motel receipts, doctor's pr00escription or unusual grocery list. Others randomly ask for the cell phone and see if there is resistance. Some access the cheater's cell to read love notes to flirts and vice versa.
It seems very paranoid but not so to anyone who is in pursuit of inner peace and honesty from partners.
 VALID ACTIONS
 Having caught a cheater is not the end in itself. The information you have gotten are vital for your attempt to win your spouse back. While the pain may be there and the discouragement linger, do not listen to the dictates of emotions. Marriage is designed by God for permanence (Matthew 19:6). So your knowledge of the cheater should be used to become a competitive spouse. Rally your strength and stand a victor rather than the victim. Draw near to your God for direction.
The need to catch the cheater in the relationship happens when trust is broken. Here are some ways that has been proven effective on how to catch a cheater:
VULNERABILITY
As you follow some trails of intuition or seeming evidence, it will be good to begin evaluating the environment in which your spouse works around. Are there vultures waiting on their prey? Some candidates to a rapacious character according to Dr. Dennis Brainey (psychologist) are secretaries, associates, business partners of the opposite sex. A high percentage of cheating happens in the context of work, and why not as they freely can develop appreciation, adoration and affection in their daily contacts.
VIOLATIONS
As you pursue your conviction, you will need to discover areas of inconsistencies. Is his previous statement contradicting the most recent? He said that he will go to Manila but went to Baguio instead. And he would not see the need to tell you unless found out. Is he violating decorum? Is your spouse usually with this person in a car, hotel meetings, conferences, travels or alone in the office till late at night or overnight? Would they give constant justification in the name of mission or worthy cause? When confronted, will they shrug it off as misinterpreted friendship even when it's silly discomforting to comrades? Is your spouse overspending? Is he in debt or living as survivor to many expenses when he should not be as others would kid around as having "unexplained poverty"?
VERIFICATION
To effectively catch a cheater some have employed witty gestures like applying cell phones of spouse for GPS or Global Positioning Satellite in order to locate them at certain times. After which they will hire somebody to find out who could he be visiting in such places or go there herself. I know of a young woman who did exactly that and found a nursing student on her seventh month pregnancy. And why would his husband visit a pregnant teenager in that place?
Some may place a recorder in their car to record cell phone conversations. What about a spy camera in the car also? Sounds like a James Bond act but any desperate person will likely do anything. You may also try checking wallet, attaché case for notes, motel receipts, doctor's pr00escription or unusual grocery list. Others randomly ask for the cell phone and see if there is resistance. Some access the cheater's cell to read love notes to flirts and vice versa.
It seems very paranoid but not so to anyone who is in pursuit of inner peace and honesty from partners.
 VALID ACTIONS
 Having caught a cheater is not the end in itself. The information you have gotten are vital for your attempt to win your spouse back. While the pain may be there and the discouragement linger, do not listen to the dictates of emotions. Marriage is designed by God for permanence (Matthew 19:6). So your knowledge of the cheater should be used to become a competitive spouse. Rally your strength and stand a victor rather than the victim. Draw near to your God for direction.